| Law of Attraction |
By Michael Losier
Genre: Inspirational & Self-Help
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In the next section you are going to discover how to use the Law of Attraction more deliberately. To do this, you'll learn an easy 3-step formula. In addition to learning the steps and following along with two case studies, you can participate by filling in the blank worksheets I have provided. More worksheets are available at http://www.lawofattractionbook.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=161&Itemid=64
If you are not sure what specific area of your life you'd like to apply Deliberate Attraction to, simply choose the area that you feel the least satisfied with. It could be your relationship(s), career, health, business or your financial situation.
I recommend you finish reading the remainder of this book and then go back and do the exercises, applying them to the specific area you've chosen.
The 3-Step Formula for Deliberate Attraction
Step 1: Identify Your Desire
Step 2: Give Your Desire Attention
Step 3: Allow It
Identify Your Desire
Give Your Desire Attention
Step 1 - Identify Your Desire
The first step in making the Law of Attraction work for you is to be clear about what you want. The challenge, however, is that most people are not good at knowing what they DO want but they are good at identifying what they DON'T want. Knowing what you don't want is actually good news. As you'll discover in this section, knowing what you don't want will become a helpful tool for you.
What is Contrast?
Contrast*, as it applies to the Law of Attraction, is anything you don't like, doesn't feel good, or causes you to be in a negative mood. The moment you identify something in your life that feels like contrast and you spend time complaining about it, talking about it, or declaring that you don't want it, you are offering a negative vibration. The Law of Attraction then responds to your negative vibration by giving you more of the same.
Is Contrast Helpful?
Yes. By observing contrast and identifying it as something you don't want, you become clearer about what you do want. Simply ask yourself "So, what do I want?" In other words, you can use the contrast to gain clarity about what you do want by answering that question.
Take your first boyfriend or girlfriend, for example. Chances are you're no longer with that person and from that relationship you have a list of things that you didn't like. This is your list of contrast. It is this list that will help you become clear about what you do want in a partner.
* The concept of "contrast" is a distinction I learned from Jerry and Esther Hicks, Abraham-Hicks Publications.
Why Is It Important to Identify Contrast?
You are already experiencing clarity whenever you observe contrast in your life.
Imagine you are riding in your car with your best friend who insists on fiddling with the radio dial. Your friend chooses a heavy metal station that you hate. You begin to feel stressed.
After five seconds of the music you say to yourself "This is my car and I'm not listening to this for one second longer." You reach over and change the dial to your favorite station, which plays adult contemporary music. Instantly, you feel happier and more relaxed.
Notice how you become clear about what you like by paying attention to what you don't like? In other words, your contrast has provided you with clarity.
How Long Is Briefly?
The key to getting what you want without getting stuck focusing on what you don't want is to briefly observe contrast.
Only you can decide how long briefly is. For some, experiencing contrast in a relationship may last for years; for others, contrast is observed for a short time. You might decide to end a relationship on the first date.
Notice that when you experience contrast around smells, sounds, or tastes, your tolerance is minimal. Think about these statements:
How long would you smell something that doesn't smell good?
How long would you listen to music that doesn't sound good?
How long would you eat something that doesn't taste good?
In these cases, you are observing contrast briefly and changing it to clarity, FAST.
There are, however, a few areas of your life where you may observe contrast far too long:
Generally, the least amount of time you spend putting your attention, energy and focus toward contrast, the better. The Clarity Through Contrast process, which you'll learn from this book, will help you with this.
Your Goal is to Limit Contrast in All Areas of Your Life
It's OK to feel good in all areas of your life. Does this sound selfish? It's OK to be selfish when you understand that being selfish is simply an act of self-care.
I'm encouraging you to be selfish in all areas of your life, especially in your:
In these four areas people tend to have lots of negative emotions and observe them for a long time, in many cases, years.
The Clarity Through Contrast Process
The Clarity Through Contrast process will assist you in becoming clearer about your desires.
Here are some prominent areas in your life where clarity is beneficial:
Next we'll examine two case studies that illustrate how the Clarity Through Contrast Process helped generate clarity.
After teaching the Law of Attraction to thousands of students, I've collected wonderful stories about people whose lives have been changed working with this process. There's something about seeing someone else's story in print that really makes this tool come alive, so I've included two case studies that represent two common areas where people use the Law of Attraction to get more of what they want.
Janice's story will show you how the 3 steps, Identifying Your Desire, Giving it Attention, and Allowing can work in attracting an ideal relationship. Greg's story focuses on another difficult issue for many people money.
Janice - Relationships
Janice, 34, is tired and frustrated because she continually has the wrong kind of guy showing interest in her. She complains that she attracts men who are unavailable, insensitive, and who seldom make her a priority.
Janice decided to use the Law of Attraction to attract her ideal relationship.
She began the process of Deliberate Attraction with Step One, Identify Your Desire, using the Clarity Through Contrast Worksheet. Take a look at Janice's worksheet on the next page.
In Janice's case, she was able to build a large list of contrast by recalling a number of past relationships, and what she didn't like (contrast) about those relationships.
Contrast things I don't like
Clarity - things I like
Janice made her contrast list on Side A. She recalled three past relationships during this exercise and took a couple of days to build her list.
My Ideal Relationship
Contrast things I don't like
Clarity - things I like
1. Flexible, well-balanced
Janice read each item on her list and asked herself "So, what do I want?" After she wrote the answer on Side B, she struck a line through the matching contrast on Side A.
Note: In our example we have listed 9 items on Janice's list. This exercise is most effective when you add as many items as possible to your contrast list (50-100 items). The more contrast you identify, the more clarity you'll generate.
Excerpted from Law of Attraction , by Michael Losier . Copyright (c) 2007 by Michael Losier . Reprinted by permission of Little, Brown and Company, New York, NY. All rights reserved.Back to top